Do you feel like your anger has control over you? Do you find yourself getting angry more often than not? Has your anger hurt people that you care about? Is it difficult for you to let your anger go? If so, then online anger counseling might be the right fit for you. The goal of anger therapy is to help you control your anger instead of continuing to allow your anger to control you.

 

How Anger Counseling Works

 

One of the first steps in the process is giving you ways to control the impulse to do or say something that you will regret. Although there are several strategies, the goal is to find what fits and works best for you. One common first step that can help is to develop an understanding of the circumstances that cause your anger. It sounds really simple, but is sometimes harder then it sounds. We have so many thoughts and feelings that we experience during the day and to focus on each and every one would be exhausting. Usually thoughts and feelings come and go.

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When anger is an issue it is necessary to slow down and pay close attention. It is important to notice what triggered the anger, what physiological symptoms you experience when you have the anger, and what usually calms you down. This gives you more information to understand your anger which is the first step in finding healing. This is something your therapist is trained to help you understand and discuss in detail.

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Once you are aware of your anger, the next step is to develop a plan to remove yourself from the situation that caused the anger when you are at “the point of no return”. Sometimes this can be difficult, but working through this with is essential. When you reach “the point of no return” the part of your brain responsible for making complicated decisions and processing complex information goes partially offline. In order to get it back online, you need to separate yourself from the trigger. You will also learn de-escalation techniques when in counseling to help calm down after you separate yourself from the trigger.

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These are a few things that happen at the beginning of therapy. After finding a way to control the impulse of anger, the plan is to understand what is going on under the hood. This is when we will work through questions like “When did you begin to notice your anger become an issue?” “What was your experience with anger growing up?” and others. One of the purposes of looking under the hood is to discover what makes you resort to anger instead of other feelings and why. Once we figure that out, we can begin to address the problem at its root.

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Anger counseling can be tough, but the process is rewarding. If you have any questions about anger, or would like to schedule a consultation, feel free to contact us or schedule an appointment!

 

Begin Anger Counseling in Tulsa

 

If you feel like you could benefit from counseling, please contact us. We are also glad to answer any questions you may have about the counseling process. If you have questions, please send us an email using the email at the bottom of the page. We want to make sure all of our clients find the right fit for them. If we are not the right fit, then we are happy to make referrals.