The Mental Health Essential
- Mark Shoemaker
- Jul 20, 2021
- 3 min read
Updated: Jun 27
Whether you're battling anxiety, anger, perfectionism, depression, or stress—or you're just feeling emotionally drained—there is hope. And part of that hope lies in something surprisingly simple, yet deeply powerful: relationships.
More specifically, the quality of your relationships. Whether you’re looking to build new connections or improve the ones you already have, meaningful relationships can offer healing, stability, and even transformation. But let’s be honest—it’s not always easy. In fact, maintaining healthy relationships in today’s world can feel harder than saying no to Girl Scout cookies.
We live in a culture that glorifies busyness. We're pulled from one obligation to the next, with barely enough time to breathe—let alone connect with others on a deeper level. But if we want our relationships to thrive, they require intentional time, energy, and care. That investment can feel costly, especially when life already feels overwhelming. So the question becomes: Is it worth it?
Science says yes. Overwhelmingly.
The Link Between Relationships and Physical Health
Research from the Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences shows that the number and quality of your social relationships have as much of an impact on your health as diet and exercise. That’s right—loneliness can be as harmful as poor nutrition or a sedentary lifestyle.
Low-quality or limited relationships have been linked to a range of serious health concerns, including:
Obesity
High blood pressure
Weakened immune response
Increased inflammation
And the effects show up at every stage of life. Older adults with fewer social connections face a significantly higher risk of mortality, while adolescents who lack close relationships are more prone to obesity and other health issues.
The physical toll of loneliness is real—and often invisible until it becomes chronic. The stress of social disconnection places an ongoing burden on the body, affecting everything from sleep to cardiovascular health. But the good news? Building healthier relationships can reverse some of these effects.
The Mental Health Impact of Connection
Beyond the physical, the mental and emotional effects of loneliness are just as concerning. A lack of meaningful relationships is strongly linked to increased rates of depression, anxiety, and even suicidal thoughts. When people feel isolated, they often experience:
Heightened stress
Decreased motivation
Difficulty coping with everyday challenges
A reduced sense of purpose or joy
Put simply: life is harder when we feel alone. Hard days feel heavier, and joyful moments can feel empty without someone to share them with.
But when we have people in our corner—those who listen, support, challenge, and walk with us through life—it becomes easier to face adversity and celebrate the good.
Prioritize Connection: The Most Important Thing on Your To-Do List
If your week is filled with back-to-back tasks, work demands, and never-ending errands—but ends with you feeling drained and disconnected—it might be time to re-evaluate. Connection isn’t a luxury; it’s a necessity.
Here’s how to start making space for it:
Schedule time for relationships. Just like meetings or deadlines, block time for the people who matter most.
Reconnect intentionally. Take your spouse on a date. Grab coffee with a friend. Call a sibling or parent just to check in.
Be open to new relationships. Whether through church, community events, or small groups, you can create new connections that enrich your life.
Ask for help if you’re struggling. If loneliness feels overwhelming or constant, reaching out to a counselor or therapist can make a huge difference. Sometimes we need professional support to break the cycle and learn how to build healthy bonds.
The Bottom Line
You don’t have to go through life feeling isolated or emotionally exhausted. Healthy, meaningful relationships are not just nice to have—they're essential for your mental, emotional, and physical well-being.
So if there’s one thing worth moving to the top of your to-do list this week, let it be connection. Invest in the people who matter. Be intentional. Reach out. And if you’re not sure where to start, consider reaching out for support.
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